You've been on a dating website, or dating app (perhaps even a dating site for nerds) you have scored a date, you've set the time and place, and before you know it, it's time to go on the date. So you gather your courage, casually walk over, and… s-s-st-st-stammer. Your face flushes, your pulse quickens, and the thought of actually getting a single word out, even your strong talking points star wars and star trek, seems totally impossible. You, my friend, are shy - and you're not alone, geeks and nerds around the world are united in this. No matter how smart, sexy or confident we are, we've likely all experienced shyness at some point in our lives. The real problem arises when shyness is so debilitating that we can't overcome it and it actually stops us from moving forward. If that's you - I have some advice: "fake it till you make it!"
If you've ever wanted to be an actor, this one is perfect for you. Come up with an image of who you think the coolest, sexiest person would be and how they would approach the object of your affection. What would they say? How would they act? Then, envision yourself as that person and go through the motions. Make sure you have it all down before you approach your date (practice in the mirror if you have to), and then go for it.
Let's pretend you're in a shop and you see the cutest sales clerk. Here's the perfect opportunity to use this technique. Ask their opinion on what you should get your friend for their birthday. This technique allows you to speak with the individual without seeming like you're hitting on him/her, while still indicating interest. You can then have a conversation without directly hitting on them and try to move things from there. This will increase your dating options.
For this one, you go up to your victim…erm…object of your affection, your potential match, and say right off the bat that you know this sounds like a pickup line, but really it's not. Then, once they're disarmed, tell them that they just really look familiar and you wanted to figure out where you might know them from. This is perfect, particularly when looking to date fellow nerds because it allows you to find out all about them (and vice versa), and by the end of the conversation, you'll have established a rapport without ever having to put yourself on the line!
There's no better icebreaker than a hilarious joke, so come prepared, my geeky friends. This technique is guaranteed to work well on the shyest of people because it's totally disarming. Plus, if it's funny enough, they won't have any choice but to laugh. Once that's accomplished, all you've gotta do is reel them in and amaze them with your sci-fi knowledge, star trek passions, and witty rapport.
If your shy hottie is standing alone, try the confident and playful approach with one of these one-liners:" If the person you're waiting for doesn't show, I'll be right over here, waiting for you" or" There you are? I've been looking all over for you." Sometimes just being charming and confident is all it takes to bring down those barriers." I'm really not trying to pick you up; I just wanted to know if you've ever been to such and such, because I know I've seen you there before, and I didn't want you to think I was rude by not acknowledging you." This is great for any user base.
Even if you're the most gregarious confident person in the world, tell the shy guy or girl you have your eye on, that you're not. Make it seem as though the two of you are in the same boat, and they'll instantly feel more at ease. This works great at a party or bar where you can say," I hate these things, don't you?" Do you struggle with awkwardness on a date? Have you got any more tricks for getting over? You can start on this geek dating site, and practice your techniques online before moving off this dating for nerds and into the real world with your perfect match.